Comments on: “Buy More” Children? http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/2011/05/buy-more-children/ A First Things Blog Tue, 06 Nov 2012 13:35:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: Alessandra http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/2011/05/buy-more-children/#comment-18569 Alessandra Sun, 05 Jun 2011 18:26:16 +0000 http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/?p=11149#comment-18569 correction: There’s so many options to helping kids who are in need, even though they have parents. correction:
There’s so many options to helping kids who are in need, even though they have parents.

]]> By: Alessandra http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/2011/05/buy-more-children/#comment-18568 Alessandra Sun, 05 Jun 2011 18:24:35 +0000 http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/?p=11149#comment-18568 There are so many children in need or suffering a great deal. If people have good parenting skills and can give more, I think they should either think of adopting or donating some of their time and love to kids who are suffering and in need of love and care. There's so many options to helping kids who have . But many people are just too selfish to think of others. There are so many children in need or suffering a great deal. If people have good parenting skills and can give more, I think they should either think of adopting or donating some of their time and love to kids who are suffering and in need of love and care. There’s so many options to helping kids who have .
But many people are just too selfish to think of others.

]]> By: Grace http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/2011/05/buy-more-children/#comment-18548 Grace Fri, 03 Jun 2011 17:57:05 +0000 http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/?p=11149#comment-18548 It is SO true that parenting is SO exhausting to parents of small families. I'm constantly accosted (we have 5 so far) by other women who say, "HOW do you do it?" I always tell them, have a couple more and you'll learn to relax and enjoy them. They don't believe me, of course. And these are women who don't work and have nannies. They still make themselves CRAZY. On the adoption/gene thing, my husband and I both have adopted siblings that did not turn out like the rest and I think it must be partly, mostly, genetic. Both our adopted siblings are divorced, poorly educated and not of great character. On the other hand, maybe adopted children need a different parenting approach than biological children. That's what we're counting on, since our 5th is adopted, and perhaps our 6th will be too. I do suspect our 5th has better genes than her father and I, she's "so sensible", as her orphanage nanny said. She's amazing.. It is SO true that parenting is SO exhausting to parents of small families. I’m constantly accosted (we have 5 so far) by other women who say, “HOW do you do it?” I always tell them, have a couple more and you’ll learn to relax and enjoy them. They don’t believe me, of course. And these are women who don’t work and have nannies. They still make themselves CRAZY.
On the adoption/gene thing, my husband and I both have adopted siblings that did not turn out like the rest and I think it must be partly, mostly, genetic. Both our adopted siblings are divorced, poorly educated and not of great character.
On the other hand, maybe adopted children need a different parenting approach than biological children. That’s what we’re counting on, since our 5th is adopted, and perhaps our 6th will be too. I do suspect our 5th has better genes than her father and I, she’s “so sensible”, as her orphanage nanny said. She’s amazing..

]]> By: Why You Should Buy More Kids » First Thoughts | A First Things Blog http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/2011/05/buy-more-children/#comment-18546 Why You Should Buy More Kids » First Thoughts | A First Things Blog Fri, 03 Jun 2011 15:36:31 +0000 http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/?p=11149#comment-18546 [...] on Evangel, Gayle Trotter has an interview with Bryan Caplan, professor of Economics at George Mason University, about his new book, Selfish Reasons to Have [...] [...] on Evangel, Gayle Trotter has an interview with Bryan Caplan, professor of Economics at George Mason University, about his new book, Selfish Reasons to Have [...]

]]> By: Barbara Ling, Mama Bear http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/2011/05/buy-more-children/#comment-18535 Barbara Ling, Mama Bear Thu, 02 Jun 2011 12:18:55 +0000 http://firstthings.com/blogs/evangel/?p=11149#comment-18535 Every child is different and has their own "best" way of being raised. Thus, what works for one kid is doomed to fail for another; you're not taking into account the *whole* parenting environment of said child. That being said, some things have a far greater probability of having a positive influence in the long run than others. Sure, you can parent without any boundaries at all (extreme example), and your child might end up godlike, but the chances of that are rather minuscule indeed. Not impossible, mind you, but quite teeny tiny. YMMV, of course. Every child is different and has their own “best” way of being raised. Thus, what works for one kid is doomed to fail for another; you’re not taking into account the *whole* parenting environment of said child.

That being said, some things have a far greater probability of having a positive influence in the long run than others.

Sure, you can parent without any boundaries at all (extreme example), and your child might end up godlike, but the chances of that are rather minuscule indeed. Not impossible, mind you, but quite teeny tiny.

YMMV, of course.

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